Gaim is bothering me

1. If you can't connect at startup, be quiet. You're on a laptop. It's perfectly normal that I don't have networking from time to time. Do not throw a gazillion of windows on my desktop.
2. If the connection to one of the servers drops, reconnect quietly. Don't ask me, and especially do not pop up the contacts window when I didn't ask for it.
3. Speaking of which, please stop bothering me with that contacts window at startup. If I'm interested in doing a chat, I'll click your icon. Otherwise, SOD OFF, dammit.